| Research proves it: Teens don't use brains
by Marybeth Hicks
There
is something parents of teenagers sometimes say when faced
with the reckless, thoughtless and self-absorbed behavior
of our offspring.
It’s perhaps not the kindest thing we could say, but
it turns out it’s entirely true.
What we say is: “For crying out loud, why don’t
you use your brain?”
We pose this rhetorical question when our teens drive cars
that have illuminated low-fuel warnings until the engine dies
on the roadside or when they leave expensive miniature electronic
devices in the pockets of blue jeans headed for the washer.
We ask this question when our teens succumb to peer pressure,
or lead a group of friends into a dangerous situation. We
always ask it when the police are involved.
And of course, it’s the only thing to say when teens
open their mouths and utter the unkind, insensitive yet routine
comments for which adolescents are well known, such as, “You’re
such a jerk,” “You’re a moron,” and
“I hate you” (a comment made all the more hurtful
by the sound of a slamming door).
Well, it turns out “Why don’t you use
your brain?” isn’t just a belittling, sarcastic,
frustrated expression of parental indignation.
Separate studies by researchers at both the National Institutes
for Health and the University College of London prove what
parents have known for generations. Teens don’t use
their brains.
Apparently, the part of the brain that inhibits risky behavior
may not be fully developed until age 25. This explains the
price of auto insurance.
In addition to lacking the brainpower to assess risk and act
accordingly, the region of the brain associated with higher-level
thinking -- empathy, guilt and understanding the motivations
of others -- is underused by teenagers. Instead, teens rely
on the posterior area of the brain -- the part involved with
perceiving and imagining actions.
So there it is. All this time we’ve been asking our
teens “Why don’t you use your brain?” and
the answer they’ve been giving us -- “Um... I
don’t know” -- turns out to be true.
Research is good, and I want to be an enlightened parent,
so I’m glad to know what I reasonably should expect
from my children in each developmental stage. In
fact, this has been my M.O. in parenting -- finding out what’s
considered “normal” (give or take) and then setting
my expectations accordingly.
I learned this strategy early in my parenting career. Katie,
my oldest, was about two years old when my aunt came for a
visit. Being a social worker and a mother of four, she was
one of my role models and mentors in parenting. I was always
eager to hear Aunt Mary’s advice.
She watched Katie wandering around our back yard, eating dirt
and sticking mulch in her ears (OK, I’m exaggerating
about the mulch), and she said something I never forgot: “A
two year old should behave a lot like a well-trained Golden
Retriever. She should feed herself, nap frequently and come
when she’s called.”
Katie didn’t come when she was called, so my aunt’s
insight gave me something to work on.
The point is, understanding what you can reasonably expect
from a child is a good way to set your standards for appropriate
behavior.
But this leaves me with a bit of a dilemma.
On the one hand, current research shows adolescents aren’t
intentionally cruel to each other, rude to their parents and
unable to control their impulsive (read: stupid) urges, but
instead haven’t developed the gray matter to think of
more acceptable forms of communication and behavior.
On the other hand, am I the only one who thinks this might
be a bit of a cop out?
It seems brain research may turn out to be the perfect excuse
when teens insult and exclude each other, or when they deface
school property or respond disrespectfully to teachers and
other adults.
As the findings of this research are applied, will
a lack of brain maturity become the all-purpose excuse that
permits bullying and vandalism? Will this discovery
keep teens out of detention hall, or worse, prohibit school
administrators from applying discipline to enforce standards
of conduct?
Can’t you just hear some high school senior’s
attorney arguing in court, “But your Honor, my client
must be permitted to graduate with his class. He simply has
not developed the brain capacity to understand it is inappropriate
to shout obscenities at his Chemistry teacher while using
a blowtorch to discover the combustive properties of nitroglycerin.”
If you think this isn’t coming, you don’t read
the paper much.
Neuroscience or not, I still think the age of reason comes
at about seven. This is the age when I expect my
children to understand that it’s rude to be rude, it’s
unkind to be unkind, and it’s dangerous to be dangerous.
I have to admit, however, that learning about the developing
brain of teenagers does give me hope. (This is probably why
the parents of young adults keep reassuring me that things
get better).
In the meantime, I’m going to keep requiring that the
teens around my house use what brain they have -- or expect
to answer that ridiculous question we parents can’t
help but ask.
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